Accept Myself and Stop Doubt in Own Greatness
I learned one useful thought from the book ‘You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life’ by Jen Sincero — every person should realize from confidence that NOW he got the latest variant of his personality. I think, by this understanding every door will be opened. On this step it is necessary to find out the sound of inner voice among noise in order to choose the most attractive way for us and believe in oneself.
We find our mission, the matter of life that can bring enjoyment. But sometimes we do things that we don’t like, and doesn’t suit us. At that moment we lose motivation, wish to find another thing. We start self-examining and it can bring up to non self-satisfaction with ourselves and our actions. But what if it is normal — take experiment and try to do something new, something that suits us. It is normal to think that you found something yours — personal, and then you can focus on something else. It is normal to listen to your own desires even if they are temporal and paradoxical because only that way we can approach harmony and peace, and find ourselves.
Every person is creating his own rules which he will follow. They can help to take care of self, respect self and self preferences. I also follow rules and I want to share some of them.
1. Create your environment consciously. This is one way to develop and change. We are the reflection of the environment who we talk with.
2. Save the world is impossible. My empathy is well developed. And sometimes it is difficult to hide from other’s pain. I can suffer and impose my help. That’s why I don’t have bad news, video, talks at cetera. And if something appears — I don’t allow it come through my heart. I’ve learnt it. Why? Because it is impossible to save the whole world.
3. I am neither better nor worse than others. In my life I am the main person, so I don’t compare myself with others.
4. Don’t work for money but for ideas and mutual matters with love! When you are doing something with love then money comes.
5. Find food in everything. Even in the worst things. The skill to find beauty in the world grows up with my personality.
I thank* for good things, increasing it, I thank for bad things and transform it into positive. So I find it on a high level. Always tell “thank you” to yourself, with sincerity.
All our complexes are germinated seeds, randomly planted by people who like to criticize actions of another person. Often we take seriously the fact that people talk about us, that’s why the self-esteem is lowering, and we need support from the world. Any small doubt can crush us and force us to feel unworthy, weak, useless.
I believe it is important to realize causes of complexes in order to get a chance to remove it. Later I see two ways:
1. Work with “Self” without any help. It is not the easiest way requiring deep dive in self and cutting all bad and demoralized things.
2. Work with specialists (psychologists, guru etc.) who can open painful points in personality and help to organize it.
In any way it is a WORK that’s why it is not easy to be happy. But it is possible.
That’s why we still are waking up in the morning, searching for and believing that once we find a harmony we get sure that it really was what we needed, and we get happy that we felt it.
Self-confidence, peace, satisfaction and accepting your own nature make every person more likely. Stop following the lives of strangers and compare yourself with others, catching for imposed etalons and blaming yourself for any mismatch. Then you are getting closer to harmony and real beauty.
When we talk about love and acceptance to self, ‘body’, ‘figure’ come to our mind. I came to the idea that these two words are absolutely different. ‘Body’ is our permanent ‘house’ and ‘figure’ is the interior of ‘house’. Some ‘houses’ need a general overhaul. Sometimes we are crushing completely and then we repair it brick by brick. Some ‘houses’ need only cosmetic repairs and sometimes only general cleaning. There are beautiful and neat, and soulless houses. They didn’t get love yet. Here is a thing: it doesn’t matter how you look, we should learn to accept ourselves because the real beauty is in love. Love your house. It makes you a cozy and beautiful person and glue wallpaper is never late.
Healthy lifestyle is not only about figure and deprivation, it is an infinite process, revitalizing thoughts, soul and body. It is energy that gives us power and fills us inside. It is wisdom allowing to accept life with surprises. It is love to self through we start loving everything around us. And, in the end, it is a decision that can be changed.
text Elena Nepochatykh
edited by Lai Yen Xing, Reshma Durai
